Well, it's been a while. I don't think I've ever let the blog languish this long without posting something - anything! - no matter how inane or ridiculous.
It's been an eventful couple of months, to say the least. Not only did I try to make some changes in my personal life (little ones, articulated below, and which I will address) but there were some larger ones as well.
On May 9 my dear in-laws were moved out of their home for the last 24 years and into an assisted living facility. It's a lovely place with room for much of their accumulated stuff, and it had to be done for their own safety. When we last visited them at their home, the first thing we noticed was the noise of the smoke alarm - its battery was dead, and it was chirping madly but neither had noticed. That's just one of many examples.
(My sister-in-law made all the arrangements without asking us for input or help, and there has been some friction due to her heavy-handedness with the whole process. They were moved 90 miles to the town where s-i-l lives and where they have no friends. When you're in your 90s, most of your friends can't drive that far for a visit!)
May 17 my dear father-in-law suffered a brain-stem stroke. He was alert, conversant and himself when he was awake, but it was next to impossible to keep him awake. We moved him to a nursing home on May 20 so he could get some rehab therapy if he was able. Unfortunately he continued to deteriorate and died early the morning of June 3.
This has all been a drain on my mother-in-law, but she is coping and her strength has improved some as well. She's meeting new people, but hasn't yet made the one friend that she can pal around with, and that's hard for her.
Ken and I have driven to Southern California three times in the past 6 weeks and stayed a few days each time. Last time was very unpleasant - Ken's sister was more difficult than usual - and we have decided it will be mid-August at the earliest before we visit again.
How did I do on the 5 minute changes? It was a seriously mixed bag.
- Giving up artificial sweeteners was actually much easier than expected, and there's been an interesting side effect. My joints - knees, mostly - ache a lot. When I went off artificial sweeteners, they stopped hurting. Pretty cool, but I didn't manage to put 2 and 2 together until our last stressful visit down South when it was really hot, and I drank Diet Coke by the boatload. Got home to sore knees, figured out the reason, and am well on the way to non-sore and non-creaky knees again.
- Time on my face - not consistent at all. I'll do fine for a couple of days and then something gets in the way and it's a week or so before I get back to attempting to create a routime. Still need to work on this.
- Nightly work in the garden, pretty spotty. It's hard to be very enthusiastic when we are in mandatory water rationing! The few veggies are doing well, and I am grabbing moments here and there to groom the roses. Just trying to keep the roses and trees alive, the grass is brown and ugly.
- Quiet contemplation, meditation or stillness - not perfect, but not terrible. Even if it's tuning out the world on my commute home, this is making a difference. I'm more "there" when I get home, and Ken has noticed!
- Knit every day - pretty much. Sometimes it's just 1 row, others it may be a ballgame length marathon, but my knitting and quilting and sewing and crafting mojo has returned!
- And the kitchen and dining area? Pretty proud of this - every night! Mail is sorted and put away, catalogs and magazines read and recycled and the dishes are done! Yeah me!
Summer has been lovely and I'm spending less time online and more time doing things that are real and that make me happy. I can't give up online completely, but do admit that there are some nights after work that I don't even turn on my home computer, and that's a good thing indeed.